When SAHMone Speaks

Would you tell your children that they should only enter a relationship at a certain age {like most parents do}?

I would never want to be the domineering mum (which I think everyone is bound to be if we can’t help it, but, for good intentions, of course ;) ) as much as I can, I’d like to be open-minded + more democratic in child-rearing, allowing my son enough space to nurture his own personality. If I can, I would love to be my son’s go-to person when he needed sound advice + a shoulder to cry on, not the one he dreads to be around because I am too bossy + that I make decisions for him without hearing him out or considering his thoughts on the matter. I would love to give him free reign, so to speak.

Much like the way my parents did when I was growing up. When everyone else in my class is thinking of alibis to tell their parents, one time we went home pretty late, I was silently sitting thinking that all I need is to tell Mama I’ve gone to a classmate’s house to make a school project, which is the exact truth, + I’m off the hook. My parents were pretty open-minded too. They are not the do-as-I-say parents who’d just tell you what to do + you must blindly follow, no matter how much you despise it! They pretty much trust each one of us to be responsible + be honest with them. Which, growing up, I did! Maybe that explains why I am such a lousy liar ;)

So, I just basically want to do the same with my son. I think, the more we’d restrict our children, the more tendencies for them to lie, do silly things just to spite us + rebel, which almost often, yield unfavorable results.

Although the thought of early pregnancies, young marriages, or failed relationships can be quite daunting enough to scare the living daylights out of us, I guess, the best route will be to explain to our children that relationships entail responsibilities + hardwork, that it isn’t something you’d engage in simply because the rest of your friends do, inasmuch as you can’t exactly tell when you’ll really ever fall in love.

I won’t tell my son that I’d only allow him to enter into a relationship once he finished College (which is really quite tempting, I tell you!), instead I will nurture him to be a well-rounded person + giving him enough love + understanding, just so I can keep him occupied from thoughts on girls + dating, until he is ready!

How about you, will you tell your children to date only when they turn 30? I’d love to hear your thoughts ;)

Love + Light,