Have you ever been having a bad day and turned on the TV to see some snobby celebrity with an attitude having the world handed to them and you think to yourself “Why is this jerk so wealthy and trouble-free while I do nice things for people all the time and yet seem to get nowhere?”
Fret not, you’re certainly not alone with this feeling. It’s the classic “nice guys finished last” and “the world isn’t fair” scenario, where the saints get walked on and the tyrants ruthlessly rule over the commoners.
Indeed, there are plenty of injustices and spoiled brats to be upset about, but on the flip side there are also plenty of good things to be excited about as well. To help you get past the defeatist mindset and start feeling like a winner again, try these two simple steps:
1. Ask Yourself, “What are You Really Trying to Win?”
Sometimes all it takes is putting things into perspective. When you look upon a tremendously successful person in the conventional sense, you see someone with plenty of apparent wealth and fame.
However, you don’t necessarily see all of the underlying problems that come with those so-called privileges. Behind the scenes, many of those celebrities and “elites” have their own emotional and financial issues to deal with.
In fact, many of them are afflicted with the “it’s never enough” mentality and they can never seem to be content in any situation. So what is it that really matters to you? Do you have good relationships with your friends and family? Do you have hobbies that you enjoy?
Oftentimes, taking a step back and looking at your own life from the outside, and then imagining what it would actually be like to be the big shot on TV can help you be thankful that your existence is so much more humble and less stressful.
2. Read and Understand Psalm 37
Now, you might not be a psalm reader and you may find the language to be a bit archaic, but the core message of Psalm 37 KJV is still very applicable for anyone who is dealing with the “I just can’t win” stumbling block.
The best way to describe the moral of Psalm 37 is that the righteous person always has the last laugh in their own existence because they pursue goals that are beneficial rather than paths that lead to destruction. While the ultra-successful “evildoers” are getting ahead and the good guy slowly gets by, the latter is not letting greed make them lose track of what is really important in life.
Psalm 37 helps you find perspective and gives assurance that the bad guys will not always be the winners, nor will they always feel like winners even when they have obtained status. Thus, I find it to be a perfect piece of scripture to reflect upon on days when you just can’t seem to get ahead or meet expectations in certain areas.
Mum’s two cents
Life can really be quite a drag at some point and you can’t help but feel down and de-spirited, but the tips mentioned above sure can help you whenever you have bouts with inadequacy or disappointments. It also helps to always have a positive view of life and the world around you and to keep a grateful and thankful heart, focusing on what is truly important, to keep you in a good mood and help you feel more content about your lot in life.