Parenting can be very tricky and one cannot follow a single guideline or parameters as no two children are alike. Even parents with multiple children need to vary their parenting style based on each child’s personality.
The fact that parenting did not come with a manual makes it an exciting yet frightening phase in a parent’s life. The parenting books can only get you too far, and the parenting tips you read online may not be as effective to you children as they are to another parent’s child.
Truth be told, parenting is almost always instinctual and each parent-and-child’s journey is different form the next. So relax, mum, because you are doing a good job. And in case you want to earn more “cool mum” points with the kiddos, I have enumerated a handful of suggestions here:
101 Parenting Tips To Consider
- Think before you speak
- Be considered a positive role model
- Listen, capture, and redirect
- Be spontaneous and loving
- Have fun with them in the backyard in above ground pools. Here you can read some of the best above ground pools reviews and buy the perfect one for your kids.
- Promote a secure and loving home environment
- Concentrate on cooperation over competition
- Focus on your youngster and what interests them
- Stress the conduct not the kid
- Don’t compare them with their siblings or others kids. Each child is unique.
- Remind them frequently just how much you love them
- Spend some time together doing what they like to do
- Pay attention to their perspective and assist them to achieve their goals
- Help them with their assignment but do not do it for them
- Get involved with their school
- Encourage them to make friends and welcome their friends into your home
- Assist your child to discover new interests or skills
- Understand that tomorrow is another day. Ask yourself if “it will really matter tomorrow?”
- Provide positive and reassuring feedback
- Let them know you like them {don’t suppose they don’t need to hear it often}
- Guide by example
- Let them know everything has its own time
- On persistence ~ show them why they have to wait
- Set goals together
- Give real responses
- Give real effects
- You have to follow through along with your actions and your words
- Reward them for their patience
- Reward them for getting a job done well, especially when you are not looking!
- Expose them to fun activities that will make them work on their patience
- Teaching diversity ~ watch films that feature different countries and culture
- Teaching diversity ~ let your kinds find pen pals from other countries
- Teaching diversity ~ create a game from researching different cultures
- Capitalize on “teaching moments” in life
- Investment time
- Encourage cooperation
- Foster openness and family participation
- Set family goals
- Encourage them explore your town
- Do not, and I repeat, do not embarrass them!
- Show them the importance of smile by example
- Encourage them to be open about their feelings
- Praise them for their good behavior
- Learn how to pay attention to your youngster
- Helping Hands ~ teach them the significance of helping others
- Learn how to pick your battles
- Know your child to understand and connect with them better
- Be their friend, but let them know that you are the parent
- Monitor online activities
- Teach your child to be independent
- Let them be!
- Set rules for them to follow at home
- Know their friends
- Discuss drug and alcohol appropriately with your children
- Appreciate who they are
- Do not undermine your child’s capacity
- Do not underestimate your child’s capabilities
- Promote new activities
- Set routines and be consistent
- Clarify, teach, speak, hear, inspire, reward, assistance, and cheer on
- Hold back the insult and opt for constructive criticism
- Allow your kids to talk about their emotions
- Foster an open environment in the home and never be judgmental
- Teach them to be comfortable in their own skin
- Don’t give answers provide instructions
- Encourage them to explore on their own
- Challenge them
- More than their achievements, be proud of their efforts
- Educate your children to respect others
- Teach them the magic of saying “Sorry”
- When on the verge of losing temper, take a deep breath before speaking.
- Encourage honesty
- Teach your child to apologize by apologizing when you did something wrong
- Encourage concern
- Show persistence
- It is never early to teach them about money and saving
- Explain that they “cannot have it all”
- Master table manners
- Help them to unleash their potentials
- Teach your kids to make thank you notes
- Spend time together
- Let them know that you trust them
- Make family rules together
- Enforce these family rules strictly
- Talk to your kids concerning the rules
- Set real punishments for breaking rules and avoid empty threats
- Include your child in making plans and decisions
- Know when to make exceptions to the rules
- Remember that they are not you!
- Guide them to improve themselves
- Ask yourself “will it matter in 5 years?”
- Teach them self-respect
- Respect your child
- Speak with them not at them
- Listen to them positively
- Inspire them to do the best in every situation and to not give up
- Follow your parents’ footsteps
- Show your child the importance of having and being a friend
- Challenge them to be better versions of themselves
- Get healthy together
- You enjoyed your childhood, let them enjoy theirs
If you made it here, then thank you and congratulations! I hope you learned new things on how to become a cool parent to your child. If you have more ideas, do drop them in a comment below and I will be delighted to add them to this list! :laugh:
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102 Comments
Your tips are so useful!
Every good parent should know them!
Thank you. I do hope more parents will get to read this and be enlightened with these tips somehow.
Awesome tips!
They sure are, thanks!
Awesome tips. I think you should keep sharing this one.
Thank you! I sure will 🙂
godd such great tips… and i love the quote too which is true 🙂
I fell in love with the quote, too, I had to use it in this post! ^_^
That’s one heck of list, amounts to a parenting manual. I agree with a lot of it, but my main objective in raising my kids was having an open dialogue with them, setting boundaries and expectations.
It sure is! 😀 Yes, it is a must that we keep communication lines open with our children as this is a basic foundation of a strong relationship.
There is never the perfect road map to parenting. It is mostly trial and error. But the experience is really surreal. The suggestions you have made is surely be helpful to new moms or expecting moms.
I sure hope so. Thank you!
These are all very good tips! I bookmarked it so I can read it again and remind myself that parenting is a difficult journey yet a remarkable one. 🙂
It sure is. Thanks for bookmarking it! ^_^
I try to do this. I’m working on patience. Sometimes I lose it and yell but I am trying to take deep breaths.
Yes, deep breaths always do the trick. I am guilty of this on occasions and it is one of the things that I am trying to be more mindful about this year.
Today was a really rough day for me with lots of things going on and lots of them going wrong. I really needed that bit of encouragement you had at the top of the post, and it was really great to look through this list and realize that I already do a lot of it. Made me feel like I’m doing alright – and I also found some great new ideas, too. I had forgotten all about penpals being a thing!
We all go through those rough days, the key is to not be too hard on ourselves. I am glad that I somehow made your day a little bit better today. Parenting and motherhood is a bittersweet mixture of good and bad things, and we ought to take the good with the bad. What matters is we try our best to be a good parent and we love our children with all our hearts! Yes, having penpals is cool! 😀
I completely agree with this list even though some of them are hard and I can’t say I do them all the time.
I feel you, I can’t do all of these at the same time. Sometimes, mums can only take so much, right?
We must be more sensitive and careful when it comes to raising a child. They will carry whatever it is that we teach them their whole lives. These are beautiful tips, I hope a lot of parents will get to read this.
’tis true! I sure hope a lot of parents will get to read this post! 🙂
I personally do not have kids and I cannot begin to imagine how challenging it is. Every day, you’re faced with a new challenge and every action is so crucial and fundamental to your children.
It’s so true. You seem to have a clear grasp of how parenting looks like. I am sure you are going to be an awesome parent when it is time! 🙂
These are some great tips for new parents. Enforcing family rules strictly is my favorite.
It is one of my favorite, too, but I thought it was one of the trickiest, as well. Parenting seems to be a never-ending struggle between being the best mum and the most disciplinarian mum!
This is a great list of tips for all parents. I agree with having an above ground pool. Both of my daughters have one for their kids.
Above ground pools are such joy when you have small children. When my son was a toddler, I remember waking up very early to fill our pool with water in time for him to play and paddle when he wakes up! He absolutely enjoyed his pool time! 😀
You have a long, yet great tips for parenting. It reminds me to check how am I doing with parenting my toddler. I’m sure I’ll be able to pick up some more from this list once the second baby is out by May! Thanks for sharing these! 🙂
It sure is long! 😀 I hope this list helps somehow! Praying for your safe delivery come May! 🙂
This is the best post I’ve read today. Only because, I am a parent and the lists you made is very helpful to me.
Thank you. Glad to be of help to mums! Motherhood and parenting is no easy feat and we needed all the help we can get.
That’s a mighty list! I would’ve added “remember that you wing it at most times” too.
Katja xxx
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I love that, too! ^_^
Wow! These parenting tips are all I need for my 7yr old hyperactive kiddo.
I also have a 7 year old, a hyper kiddo, too. Quite a challenge, but, it’s simply pure joy to raise him! ^_^
These are great tips. I think kids just observe and learn. So the way you behave plays a big role in their overall personality development. It’s great to find such great tips in one place… thank you for sharing.
You are more than welcome. It is true, children are more like sponges ever ready to absorb whatever it is that they see around them. We teach more with what we do than what we actually teach them.
Just as I was telling myself to let my kids spend more time playing in the bathroom like how I did back when I was a child. 🙂 And my favorite thing lately is telling my kids to never give up even when playing puzzle or searching for a lost toy. The message must have reached them since my 5-year-old no longer whines when she can’t find her toy and I overheard her telling her little brother one day not to give up and try harder. It’s amazing! I still have lots to learn though in this parenting journey. 😉
Yes, a little and constant encouragement works wonders in children’s attitude. It is, after all, a hit-and-miss thing on some occasions, and the good thing is we parents learn as we go along! 🙂
What an awesome list!! I love the tip straw the behavior not the child ? that was a great reminder
Most parents overlook this. Sometimes we are prone to making children feel that we feel bad about them, instead of making them feel that we feel about something they did.
That was quite a list! hahaha But it’s true that parents have so much to do for their children. I think we could think of 1001 things! Do you agree?
It sure is! 😀 I should work on the 1001 things to parent! Haha! 😀
Parenthood really is not easy. There are so many things to teach kids!!
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No, it isn’t! Yes, I agree on the many things parents need to teach their kids.
Parenting is an adventure on its own. You would never know how to act until you are actually one. Thanks for these tips.
It sure is! That is why we needed all the help {re: tips ;)} we can get.
What a great list – will have to read it again once I have kids too 🙂
Thanks! Please do! 🙂
Quiet a long list but worth the while reading. Thank you for sharing this very timely parenting tips.
Thank you! 🙂
That is a long list but it’s worth reading. I need to print a copy of this list.
Thank you! It sure is a long list! ^_^
Great list you have here mommy, very useful 🙂
Thanks mummy! ^_^
I love think before you speak the most. My husband has a bit of a temper at times and I often need to remind him tip #1. I don’t like hurt feelings in the family because of the wrong choice of words. Great tips!
Yes, we must always be mindful of the way we speak, especially to our children. We ought to always communicate loving and respectful words for them to emulate. Thanks!
Saved a screenshot so I can always read back if I think I’m losing my patience. Thanks for these great tips. Parenting is a tough job and it would not hurt to seek advice 🙂
Yes, it is no easy job and we need good reminders from time to time! 🙂
I’m currently in another stage of parenting — teen parenting! It’s a lot different compared to when my kids were younger.
I dread that stage of parenting! Haha
Long but useful tips. We all need to be reminded of these from time to time. We forget to be kids. One thing I’ve learned lately. To enjoy taking care of kids, you have to be a kid at heart. To join them in order to experience the same pure joy. 🙂
I guess that’s what makes parenting pure awesome, we get a chance to experience childhood all over again in their eyes! ^_^
there is no right or wrong when it comes to parenting, just do your best and rely on your instict as a parent
and pray that what we have done will be enough for them to grow as a responsible children
It is true as parenting and motherhood is mostly instinctual! And, yes, we need prayers, lots of them! 🙂
Yes to all of them! I need to read this again just to remind myself.
Yes, every parent need the reminder once in a while.
These were all inspiring! Every parent should really keep all of this in mind 🙂
Thank you! 🙂
Thanks for sharing those tips! Very useful for new moms like me.
You are most welcome and cheers to parenting and motherhood! ^_^
There are plenty of great parenting ideas on this list. Some of which I apply. Articles like this are always helpful. Especially for new parents finding their way.
Thank you. Yes, new parents need all the help they can get.
Good read! Learned a lot from this 🙂
Thanks! 🙂
Thanks for this beautiful reminder, though I admit I fail many times with these. But, I am trying my best not to overreact and keep my cool. Not yelling is a real struggle, you know? ?
I feel you! There are times when you cannot help but yell at your child and it really is a struggle to not to, especially if they are being difficult or uncooperative.
This is a great list. There is no rule book in parenting, since kids are different. Nonetheless, these ideas are basic ones every parent must remember 🙂
They indeed are. Thank you! 🙂
Being a mom for 15 years already I’ve done a lot of these things but not everything yet. Haha! Such a nice read though because none of us are perfect parents and could use a little reminder every so often.
Wow, 15 years! And yet, no two children are alike, so you have to vary the way you raise them from one child to the next? It’s true! We all need the reminder once in a while, right? 🙂
Whew! What a long list for us parents to remember! Haha! Great ones though!
It is! I almost gave up half-way through! Haha! Thank you! ^_^
Thanks for the post. #49 is an especially timely reminder. I see many children glued to the handphone nowadays and it’s really bad. Bad for relationships and social skills. What happened to outdoor fun and exploration? Cheers 🙂
Tell me about it! It really is an extra challenge to peel children’s eyes off on their gadgets. That’s why I thought it was a blessing in disguise when my little man’s Ipad broke, we have less fights and I feel less stressed about it. Now my challenge is how to keep him off the sofa and onto his bike on weekends when it is his time to play his games on the tellie! 😛
I admit, I still have a lot to learn as a mom. I need all the help I can get in raising my 10-year-old son to be smart, responsible and God-fearing. Thanks for sharing these tips!
We all are learning more about parenting and motherhood as we go along, with high hopes of raising our little ones to be better human beings than we are. You’re welcome!
Some people find it strange that I use terms such as “respecting” my children, but they’re human beings too. They have feelings and dreams of their own. I can’t step all over them. Great list!
I agree with you on that one. I also believe that we ought to respect our children and their rights. Thanks! 🙂
Great parenting tips. I always want to promote a secure and loving home environment.
Yes nothing like a secure and loving home environment to keep the children happy, right mars? 🙂
I’m not a parent yet so it’s kinda weird why I decided to choose this post, maybe it’s because I’m a mom to a 1 year old dachshund and going 4 months shih tzu boys. So, I’m not technically a mom to a child but a mom to furbabies – in short, a furmom! Haha! But this post will help me to be a better mom in the future, I grew up in a broken family and unfortunately, I didn’t experience half of what is indicated on your list. Being in a broken family makes you promise that you’ll never ever let your future family to be broken. I want my children to be open to me and tell me everything that bothers them, unlike my current relation to my mom. That’s why there are times that I’m suffering depression due to no one to talk to. I don’t want any of my child to experience it, I want them to live their own life, I will have rules of course but I’ll make sure that won’t be the reason why they didn’t reach their dreams.
Although I am not from a broken family, I understand your desire to never let your future family to be broken as they do take their toll on children and they are the most affected when parents separate. Based on what you’ve mentioned, I can tell that you are going to be a great mum in the future! And furbabies are so much like real babies, anyway, you get a lot of practice now! 🙂
Loooong list. I have three kids and what I realized so far is that there is no one single successful parenting formula. While we equip ourselves with the best parenting tool, the real test happens when you are in front of your children. Especially when they throw a tantrum. Hahaha!
That is so true! There is really no fool-proof formula with regards to parenting as one child varies from the next. Hay, I am also bad at tantrums, I throw one myself! Haha! 😀
I agree that parents should lead their kids by example.
Indeed!
These are lovely tips, and nice to know that some parents remind themselves of these guidelines. I think more and more parents could use this, too. 🙂
Thank you. Yes, I sure hope more parents can read this and be enlightened by it! ^_^
This is a great list for first-time parents like us. Basta I let my son enjoy his childhood kahit magkalat siya nang magkalat lols. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Yes, never mind the kalat. What matter most is we give our children the happiest childhood they can have! ^_^