Do You Ever Feel Like You Just Can’t Win?

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Have you ever been having a bad day and turned on the TV to see some snobby celebrity with an attitude having the world handed to them and you think to yourself “Why is this jerk so wealthy and trouble-free while I do nice things for people all the time and yet seem to get nowhere?”

Fret not, you’re certainly not alone with this feeling. It’s the classic “nice guys finished last” and “the world isn’t fair” scenario, where the saints get walked on and the tyrants ruthlessly rule over the commoners.

Indeed, there are plenty of injustices and spoiled brats to be upset about, but on the flip side there are also plenty of good things to be excited about as well. To help you get past the defeatist mindset and start feeling like a winner again, try these two simple steps:

1. Ask Yourself, “What are You Really Trying to Win?”

Sometimes all it takes is putting things into perspective. When you look upon a tremendously successful person in the conventional sense, you see someone with plenty of apparent wealth and fame.

However, you don’t necessarily see all of the underlying problems that come with those so-called privileges. Behind the scenes, many of those celebrities and “elites” have their own emotional and financial issues to deal with.

In fact, many of them are afflicted with the “it’s never enough” mentality and they can never seem to be content in any situation. So what is it that really matters to you? Do you have good relationships with your friends and family? Do you have hobbies that you enjoy?

Oftentimes, taking a step back and looking at your own life from the outside, and then imagining what it would actually be like to be the big shot on TV can help you be thankful that your existence is so much more humble and less stressful.

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What Is SAT Tutoring?

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The SAT test is a very important test for high school students aiming to get into college. Almost all universities look at a student’s SAT scores when making admission decisions. Because of the importance of the SAT test scores, many students choose to participate in SAT tutoring in NJ to help them study and prepare for the exams. A tutoring program can help students feel more prepared for the SAT exam and can help them perform their best. Because the SAT test changes so often, it can be difficult for a student to study on their own based on the advice of others who have taken the SATs. So, what kind of assistance does SAT tutoring provide a student that they can’t get on their own? Here are some of the things a tutor can help a student with in their preparations.

The Ways Tutoring Can Help

SAT tutors have many resources available to them that they can use to help students preparing for the SATs. First, tutors can help a student learn valuable study skills that can help them participate in effective studying. Many students do not really know the best and most effective ways to study, and study methods can be more or less effective depending on the student and what they are studying for. Tutors know some of the most effective ways to study for a kind of test like the SAT, and they can help students find the method that works best for them. Tutors can also provide students with practice tests. They can go over those tests with the students to determine where their strengths and weaknesses lie. This can help the tutors identify what areas of the SAT test the student needs the most help preparing for and what areas they don’t need to go over as much, thus allowing them to maximize their time and work. Tutors can also help a student develop good test-taking strategies, like managing their time appropriately while taking the test (spending more time on the problem sections and less on the strong sections). In all these ways, SAT tutoring in NJ can really help a student study and practice for the SAT.

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What To Expect When You’re Turning 30

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Three, Zero… Three, Zero… Three, Zero…it never gets any easier to say. It conjures up images of someone much older who has achieved their career goals, owns a nice house and car, is married to the person of their dreams, but in reality very few of these accomplishments are ticked off by the time we are 30. I’m not sure if it’s because the Y Gen are more laid back than previous generations or because life seems to be getting harder and therefore ordinary dreams are more difficult to achieve. I can’t predict what your 30’s will bring but here are a few things it has brought others.

Celebrate this milestone

As we enter each new decade, we tend to celebrate it whether we want to or not and turning 30 is no different. If you are loathing turning 30, look at what you have achieved so far and be proud of it, if you are excited for this next phase in your life, embrace all the possibilities it could bring. You are the maker of your own destiny, so get started on that birthday invitation!

If you’re not married and having children, why not?

As you pass through your 20’s and then into your 30’s, you will find that there are some people in your life that just can’t understand why you are not married and breeding an army by now. You’ll get the ‘When are you going to settle down and find a nice person to share your life with?’ or ‘I’m not getting any younger you know, I would like grandchildren one day’. Don’t despair over these comments, just ignore them and go on living life the way you intended.

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Ok, so the body isn’t holding up like it did when you were 20 and you have to work harder at the gym to burn off that piece of decadent mud cake but nothing lasts forever, right? So many people I know are too hard on themselves when it comes to the way they look. Eating healthy and keeping fit are important for the way you look and feel and this is what happens as you get older. Just remember, you are not alone in this battle, it is happening to all of us!

Expect life to be different

I don’t mean the day you turn 30, everything will change but your 30’s are very rarely like your 20’s. The 20’s are for having carefree fun, travelling and not knowing where life will take you next. For most people I know, their 30’s have been about securing a career, buying a house (investment or otherwise) and thinking about the bigger picture. This is not to say you won’t have fun in your 30’s because you will, it’s just a different kind of fun.

Whether you are married, single, working or unemployed, your 30’s will be a turning point in your life and a decade you will reflect on in your later years as one you wish you could go back to.

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