Remembering Our Dearly Departed This All Soul’s Day

Was it a few weeks back or some days ago when I read this post on Angelina Jolie’s Facebook Page. It caught my attention as she cleverly sums up the feeling of losing someone you love dearly. Whether or not she was referring to his ex-husband, Brad Pitt, whom she divorced recently or to someone she lost over death, I am not entirely sure. One thing I am certain, though, she eloquently describes exactly how most of us who lost someone dear feels and continue to feel long after the loss.

Someday you will be faced with the reality of loss. And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it will become clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence. When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss. You will never forget them. However, in a backwards way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound. It’s like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character. The people you lose remain a part of you. Remember them and always cherish the good moments spent with them.

I thought it was rather timely as we are nearing All Saint’s Day when I read this.

Anyways, we had quite an interesting All Saint’s Day and that is what I’ll share with you today.

Since our beloved parents passed on 8 years ago, it has been our tradition to spend the whole day of November 1st at the memorial park, joining other families who gather there to pay respects and remember our departed loved ones. This year, though, in my efforts to avoid the excruciating afternoon heat, I decided to join my other siblings in spending the night of October 31st at my parents’ graves. I thought it would be ideal for the little man so he won’t be exposed to the harmful afternoon rays. I originally planned to stay for a few hours and go home at around 10pm, but apparently my little man had another thing in mind.

I never thought Jared would sleep soundly in a mat under the night sky, but he did! It drizzled a bit around midnight, but good thing my brother set-up our tent that evening. It was also good that I bought a citronella-scented candle to ward of the unwanted evening guests. I thought we won’t be able to make it, but I managed to spend the entire night at my parents’ graves. It sure beats joining the throngs of people during daytime. The memorial park is obviously more tranquil at night plus the weather is even better.

The little one woke up around 4am and we went home at about 5am. It was a day well-spent remembering my parents who left us all too soon. After getting some much-needed sleep, we returned the next night to join my other siblings and my niece and nephew in visiting my parents at the memorial park.

How did you spend the All Saint’s Day long weekend?

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Remembering Our Dearly Departed Today

All Saints' Day, mum's thoughts, Mama, Papa, occasionsIt is our 7th year of observing All Saints’ Day without my parents and we shall be spending the day {mostly the later part of it till the night} at their resting place at the memorial. Very different from its usual peace and solemnity, our local memorial will be filled with people milling about, excited noise and chatter, kids playing with those light up toys tossing them here and there, but most importantly, the place will be filled with flowers, lit candles, and prayers for our dearly departed. I am sure that my Mama and Papa, along with the many souls whose remains lay in the memorial grounds, will be happy to be remembered and prayed for today.

I was not able to get those special candles which my Mama used to get for her parents and brother when she was alive, but I do hope she liked the green tea-scented we got for her and Papa, instead. I am sure she will also be delighted at the sight of the many tea candles we plan to light up today.

It will never be easy losing someone you love dearly, sure I lost my one and only tito when I was in kindergarten but I was too little to remember the loss now, whereas I will feel the loss of my parents every single day of my life, but to know that they are happily looking down on us from heaven, and that they are in a much better place now with our Creator, is more than enough consolation. I look forward to reuniting with them one day.

I hope you had a meaningful and safe day remembering and celebrating the lives of your dearly departed. Let us keep their memories alive by praying for their eternal repose and celebrating the life they led when they were still with us. Most of all, let us never cease to follow the invaluable lessons they taught us when they were still alive, let  us not stop  loving them, just like what my parent’s tombstone say:

“love is how you stay alive, 

even after you are gone.”  ~ Mitch Albom

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Mum Finds: Eco Candles For All Saints’ Day

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Like most of the previous year, we are most likely to spend our entire day at the memorial to pay tribute to our parents who have passed on 6 years ago. We’d bring flowers and light those candles and join the crowd who make time on this day to visit and remember our dearly departed.  We’d also bring snacks and food, as well as a big Coleman filled with iced cold water. We’d love to come prepared, that is why as early as a month from November, we are already on the hunt for beautiful and affordable candles to bring on All Saints’ Day.

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I guess we are in luck this year. While out one Sunday to run some errands, we chanced upon these pretty candles at the department store of Waltermart. We instantly fell in love with the colors and the scent. And what’s even better is that these candles are up for grabs at 50% off, so we get to bring home 6 candles for the price of 3! How cool is that? Hopefully these candles last up to the remaining hours of November 1st.

Are you ready for All Saints’ Day and what have you prepared?

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