sharing my parenting woes

Do you tell your significant other everything about your worries?

I am really such a worry wart, so as best as I can, I try to downplay my worries + choose the ones to tell Jared’s dad + keep most of them to myself. I believe that sharing your woes make the load a lot lighter by dividing your grief, but sometimes he tends to be much worse of a worrier than me + tends to be such a negatron that I find it best toΒ  keep it to myself or share my worries with my sister (who I know can get quite annoyed at times, but she loves her nephew to bits so I’m sure she doesn’t mind!) instead. We do discuss stuffs like Jared’s vaccines or consultation schedules with his pedia, or about my worries on baby’s habit to refuse eating solids, or whenever Jared reaches a milestone or learned something new or did something funny or unusual. I try my best to keep him up-to-date with what’s going on in Jared’s little corner, the best I can.Β  But there are just so many things better left unsaid, too, for everyone’s benefits…

Love + Light,

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When SAHMone Speaks

Would you tell your children that they should only enter a relationship at a certain age {like most parents do}?

I would never want to be the domineering mum (which I think everyone is bound to be if we can’t help it, but, for good intentions, of course πŸ˜‰ ) as much as I can, I’d like to be open-minded + more democratic in child-rearing, allowing my son enough space to nurture his own personality. If I can, I would love to be my son’s go-to person when he needed sound advice + a shoulder to cry on, not the one he dreads to be around because I am too bossy + that I make decisions for him without hearing him out or considering his thoughts on the matter. I would love to give him free reign, so to speak.

Much like the way my parents did when I was growing up. When everyone else in my class is thinking of alibis to tell their parents, one time we went home pretty late, I was silently sitting thinking that all I need is to tell Mama I’ve gone to a classmate’s house to make a school project, which is the exact truth, + I’m off the hook. My parents were pretty open-minded too. They are not the do-as-I-say parents who’d just tell you what to do + you must blindly follow, no matter how much you despise it! They pretty much trust each one of us to be responsible + be honest with them. Which, growing up, I did! Maybe that explains why I am such a lousy liar πŸ˜‰

So, I just basically want to do the same with my son. I think, the more we’d restrict our children, the more tendencies for them to lie, do silly things just to spite us + rebel, which almost often, yield unfavorable results.

Although the thought of early pregnancies, young marriages, or failed relationships can be quite daunting enough to scare the living daylights out of us, I guess, the best route will be to explain to our children that relationships entail responsibilities + hardwork, that it isn’t something you’d engage in simply because the rest of your friends do, inasmuch as you can’t exactly tell when you’ll really ever fall in love.

I won’t tell my son that I’d only allow him to enter into a relationship once he finished College (which is really quite tempting, I tell you!), instead I will nurture him to be a well-rounded person + giving him enough love + understanding, just so I can keep him occupied from thoughts on girls + dating, until he is ready!

How about you, will you tell your children to date only when they turn 30? I’d love to hear your thoughts πŸ˜‰

Love + Light,

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